- Step 1
The bible says love keeps no record or wrong so why do we keep records. Some people have a naughty list longer than Santa's toy list. When we hold things against people we are actually hurting ourselves. You may say how can you prove this, well here's how. Whenever you think about what someone did to you in the past what happens to your emotions. Are you still jolly like Saint Nicholas, are you still thinking happy thoughts. If you feel your emotions starting to change that is good indication you haven't let go.
- Step 2
Of course you can't forget what happened but you can let it go. One of the ways to let it go is to make amend with that person you have something against. Every time you relive that moment you are making it harder and harder to let go. Don't relive your moments make new ones. Whenever you feel yourself starting to journey in the past stop yourself, and start thinking on good things.
- Step 3
One thing you can do is write a letter to yourself or to God about everything the person did towards you. After you read the letter take it and burn it. By burning the letter you are symbolizing to yourself that you are letting go. You can also read the letter to the person, sharing how you felt and feel even now about what happened in the past. Sometimes we cant let go because we never got the issue of our chest.
- Step 4
As long as your bury your feeling they are still buried. Unless you let them resurface. This is why reading the letter to yourself or to the person will help you to let go. If you have to cry, then cry, but the point is once you let it go don't go back to that place move forward.